Against Cucks

A critique of Sex at Dawn and faux-edgy non-monogamy

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Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships (order on Amazon)

Why we call them cucks…

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The matriarchal Mosuo tribe of China. They NEVER slut shame women, their average yearly income is $150 — $200 and electricity is considered a luxury.

We have plenty of evidence that widespread sexual liberation is quite bad for society…

Personal anecdote: Sexual Liberation Destroys a New Family

A few years ago an old childhood friend of mine married his beautiful young Argentinian girlfriend who he had a son with. They seemed very happy together and the marriage was a truly joyous merger of two families that got along famously. At their wedding, I remember thinking this is the start of something really great! To my surprise about 6 months later they announced that they were getting divorced. It turned out that my friend’s young wife got drunk one night and cheated on my friend. He was deeply ashamed and decided to divorce. Thus another single mother was created and the burgeoning friendship between the two families was blown up. My friend’s young son goes to daycare when he’s not being juggled between his two parents. There are signs that he’s going to have a troubled childhood. This is what you get with sexual liberation folks; you brainwash people from the youngest age that they should just do whatever feels good to them in the moment. Countless songs and everything on TV repeats this message that sex is just a toy that exists for your enjoyment. The women are wonderful message gets repeated everywhere — convincing women that they don’t actually need to be virtuous or disciplined — they are perfect just the way they are. This cultural cauldron of individualism, feminism, and consumerism has made so many incapable of seeing beyond their own noses. My friend’s young wife had all the very best reasons to be a loyal wife and a decent mother YET she couldn’t even make it 6 fucking months into the marriage without cheating!

My understanding of psychology is that…

Men are really sensitive to sexual infidelity — we don’t really care if our wifey is having coffee and hours of conversation with some guy but the thought of her fucking other guys is nausea inducing. This is because for our caveman ancestors if their wife was sleeping with another caveman she might become pregnant and then he would be pouring his precious resources into raising another man’s child. In the prehistoric world of extreme scarcity of calories and shelter from the elements this could mean gene death. Thus monogamy, pair bonding and slut shaming is evolutionarily adaptive.

Why would he subject himself to the mental torture of kissing the lips that he knows were just a few hours prior sucking another man’s cock?

Extreme virtue signaling. It’s evident from his podcasts that he’s ensconced in this extremely progressive lefty world. He broadcasts loudly his extreme egalitarianism — if he gets to sleep with other women then his girlfriend must sleep with other men too! I really hope the feminists and cultural Marxists of the world are rushing to Onnit.com with their credit cards out to support this man.

  • The kind of guys that would sleep with a woman in an open relationship are not going to be very virtuous, disciplined men. They are going to probably be very promiscuous also so there’s a huge risk of STDs.
  • There’s always that chance that his girlfriend might get pregnant by one of the other guys she’s sleeping with as has happened to numerous other cuck couples.
  • It looks like Aubrey’s girlfriend lives with him so if he wants to get some ass on the side he probably needs to sneak off to a hotel.

Burning down civilization…

Late into the interview Chris Ryan reveals that he thinks that…

  • Abroad they let their health decline. Their bodies and minds are weak. They often succumb totally to vice; drug addiction and alcoholism.
  • They are suckers for vapid pseudo-spirituality or any self indulgent, narcissistic pursuit.
  • Men obviously travel because they hope to hook up with exotic women yet few do because they are just not willing to do the work of seduction most resort to running scammy, weasily, lazy online game, pretending to be musicians or “model photographers” or screwing hookers.
  • They don’t work. Their discipline and capacity for achievement has totally atrophied.

An analogy that Aubrey should appreciate…

You don’t go to the gym because it’s pleasurable and a natural leisure activity — it’s the opposite, it’s something we do because it is hard. Going to the gym is not immediately beneficial. It takes months or years of strenuous effort to see much benefit. Monogamy is analogous on a civilizational scale, it’s strenuous and discipline intensive but in the long term it’s so much better for everybody. Chris Ryan doesn’t look like he goes to the gym much and clearly he’s failing to think effectively in the long term.

Complimentary Rights

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The Bonobo Question

Chris Ryan seems to have a fetish for our evolutionary cousins Bonobos who are extremely promiscuous. His research indicates that their promiscuity results in them having more tranquil and peaceful societies. That’s interesting but Bonobos are fucking animals — they sleep on the ground, they don’t even wear clothes, they don’t have a language, they’ve never invented anything — call me a human chauvinist but we are clearly better.

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On Promiscuity

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On Values

People, especially the reviled straight white male, will suffer through the most obscene conditions and tribulations if they feel like it’s for a greater ideological purpose. Thus Aubrey is willing to subject himself to this unhealthy lifestyle for the purpose of advancing society towards this mythological egalitarian utopia.

The libertarian argument

Many who wouldn’t personally choose cuckoldry would defend Aubrey’s right to be a cuck and even his right to promote cuckoldry. I suppose as a consistent respecter of free speech, I would have to agree BUT just because I have a right to make a decision doesn’t mean that it’s a good decision. It needs to be OK to harshly criticize those who spread bad ideas and this is a really bad idea.

Genetic Immortality

My parents are generally quite proud of me, they think I have a pretty nifty existence and that I’m doing meaningful work in the world, they are also justifiably proud of themselves, they are more than anyone else responsible for bringing me into the world and forming me into a decent (some would say awesome!) human being. My parents could have had a life of travel and fancy dinners but instead they spent their time and resources on being parents and when they look at my great life they say wow it was worth it!

Reject cuckoldry

I’ve made a strong case here that cuckoldry is a bad decision for almost everyone. I’m trying to think of anything that’s good for you (or your family or society) but makes you viscerally sick and angry and I can’t come up with anything. If your body and mind have an automatic reaction of disgust to something it’s a pretty good sign that it’s unhealthy.

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Adventuring philosopher, Pompous pontificator, Writer, K-Selected Biohacker, Tantric husband, Raconteur & Smart Drug Dealer 🇺🇸

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