Here’s why you don’t have your shit together…
A lot of people are not smart enough to be making their own decisions.
About half of the general population is not smart enough to make their own decisions about…
Where to work.
What to study.
What to do with your free time.
What to worry about. What to let go.
What to do on a Sunday morning.
What vices are acceptable to have.
How to entertain yourself.
Who to ostracize. Who to befriend. Who to love. Who to marry. Who to make children with.
At least half the population, left to their own devices will make decisions that are self destructive and bad for society.
Culture is an operating system, and in the past it answered all these questions for you. We used to have a culture that promoted cohesion. Now, unfortunately, you’re living in the Century of Self, and the supreme cultural value is individualism. Every other cultural value is thrown out in lieu of putting the individual whim and desire on a pedestal.
If you’re not really good at making rational, long term decisions and resisting impulsive actions you’re not going to do well in a culture that encourages extreme individualism.
I’m sorry that you were born in this confusing time.