Playing With Fire

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Seduction is risky

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An accurate iconic representation of the modern winner-take-all sexual marketplace. The men with the most value are getting the most attractive women and ALL the other women. The men on the bottom half of the hierarchy get nothing. Maybe monogamy wasn't such a bad idea?
  1. A woman who has a pleasant, feminine personality that can hold a conversation.
  2. A woman with a modicum of decency and morality who isn’t totally dishonest, crazy or entitled.
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The Colombian politician’s daughter

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Russian roulette

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The evil tax agent

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  • She really liked to drink.
  • She liked cocaine.
  • She was a single mother of two.
  • She was pretty materialistic, I’d discover that she really didn’t need gifts from me, she had a walk in closet full of clothing and shoes!
  • She would drink and drive.
  • She would complain and gossip about her colleagues, friends and babies’ daddy.
  • She was non-monogamous, telling me that it was OK I slept with other women as long as I used protection and didn’t bring her an STD.
  • And she was a corrupt statist, a cog in the beast, extracting taxes from the hardworking Coloradoan taxpayer. Although, she admitted to me that she was susceptible to bribery and could conveniently make files disappear if properly motivated.

Last minute resistance

If there’s a slight chance that you can kiss her. Do it!

Even if it’s awkward, even if it’s a bit unexpected, even if your bodies and heads aren’t quite facing each other just right, if you detect the slightest attraction from her just go for it. There’s only upside to trying to kiss a girl…

  • If you try to kiss her and fail at least she knows what you want and she knows that you’re an audaces fortuna juvat type of guy. You won’t be friendzoned.
  • If she reproaches you for your boldness. Just apologize, Sorry! You looked very beautiful there for a moment and I had to try. You’re the woman, it’s your just to resist I know, but it’s my job to try. Then try to kiss her again, if she really doesn't like it she’ll leave and by all means let her go!
  • If she staunchly resists kissing you, you know she’s really not that interested and you won’t waste your time.

She just wanted a DVD player

In a sweaty reggaeton bar I met Andrea, a curvaceous young Colombian girl, looking hot in white pants and accompanied by an awkward lesbian friend. My Spanish and Colombian vertical doggy style dancing technique had improved and after dancing a few songs and buying her a cheap beer she was ready to leave with me. The obstacle was obviously the lesbian friend, but she was all too happy to leave her friend to spend the night with me when I offered to pay for her taxi to leave.

Clearly I’ve had some questionable women in my life…

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Finding a good woman

After hearing my stories and countless others like them, it might be easy to adopt another bias, that all women are bad and that’s also false. The next chapter will delve more deeply into how to find a woman who might just be good enough to give your last name to, but I’ll make a few points…

  • Intoxication had a lot to do with my lack of standards in the past. When you drink, even a little bit your standards go out the window. If you’re always drinking when you hang out with the woman you’re dating that’s a bad sign.
  • Your friends and family should be vetting the people you’re dating. If your loved ones actually care about you, they’ll scrutinize your lovers a bit and ask you some hard questions.
  • Many of my friends had similarly rowdy sex lives but they were quite lazy about using condoms and many of them paid a very high cost that ultimately limited their freedom and fun. That millimeter of plastic allowed me to play with fire without inflaming my entire life in disaster.

To Summarize

  • Seduction can be a powerful tool for personal growth.
  • If there’s a chance that you can kiss a girl, go for it!
  • Be aware of cultural nuances and standards, they can make or break you.
  • Have hard standards in your dating.
  • If you don’t think that she’d make a good mother or wife use a condom dammit!
  • There’s three major red flags; smoking, drinking to excess and being a single mother. If there’s one of these flags, proceed with caution and use a condom! More than one of these red flags should totally disqualify a woman — there’s 3 billion women on the planet, find a better one.
  • Don’t stick your dick in crazy.

This is a chapter from my mémoire and lifehacking manifesto.

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Adventuring philosopher, Pompous pontificator, Writer, K-Selected Biohacker, Tantric husband, Raconteur & Smart Drug Dealer 🇺🇸